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I am dissatisfied with the state of online social networks [Aug. 8th, 2014|11:03 am]
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Here's my conundrum:

I really want somewhere to air some of my opinions. But they're not opinions that I want future employers to be able to find, which rules out FB and Twitter (and to some extent LJ, because I'm told my account is findable relatively easily). But I also want more than a handful of people to be able to read it, which rules out LJ (I love the handful of you who comment, but the chance of getting more commenting readers here is kind of nil. When I went to the asexuality conference all the people I met had tumblrs and hadn't even heard of LJ and I felt old). I also really don't want to join Tumblr because, really guys? another social network that's going to be dead in 5-10 years? with a confusing interface and weird conversation system and virtually no permanence to speak of? , but I also really really do want to join because there are interesting people there who say interesting things and I don't have an appropriate means of following them, which means I waste inordinate amounts of time during the day checking each one manually.

At the moment I'm leaning towards either a new Twitter account, or swallowing my distaste and learning how to use Tumblr. With potential crossposting to here under a friendslock. Is there an obvious thing that I'm missing which would solve all my social network woes?

The opinions are things like "I sympathise with this highly stigmatised group (but I can't talk about my sympathy without potentially attracting extremely extreme reactions)", "here are the circumstances under which I support certain extremely unpopular actions", or "let me discuss specific details about my mental illness and therapy experiences in public". Basically, I want somewhere I can talk about the kinds of things where stating an opinion would potentially attract real world hate mail* or make employers kind of hesitant about me.

* since I'm female, this seems like a doubly-important thing to worry about
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[User Picture]From: yingtai
2014-08-08 03:48 pm (UTC)
I haven't received any hate mail yet. I understand dommes do get a lot of it, but I just get creepy love letters. On the other hand, you'll be speaking on asexuality, so it might be different.

You can follow tumblrs, LiveJournal and any other blog via RSS feed. I use feedly and it has been a lifesaver. Also doesn't require you to know what an RSS feed is, you just search for the website address and voila.

Mind you, I would also love it if you had a Twitter account so that we could be friends there. But it is a time sink. To get followers you have to interact. Though if you want to interact anyway, it's worth it.
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[User Picture]From: erratio
2014-08-08 06:09 pm (UTC)
Actually, asexuality isn't particularly high on the list of things I'm uncomfortable speaking about in public. The topics I have in mind are taboo enough that I'm not actually 100% sure that you wouldn't judge me (I don't *think* you would, but.. yeah).

Thanks for the headsup on RSS of tumblrs. I'll have to start making more use of my feedly account
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[User Picture]From: yingtai
2014-08-08 06:18 pm (UTC)
One reason I'm really hoping you'll join me on Twitter is that I value friends who will stay level-headed and open-hearted even when they viscerally disagree with me. I think you're one of them. And I'm trying to be. Let's hope I succeed?
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[User Picture]From: erratio
2014-08-08 06:41 pm (UTC)
awww, thanks :)

I can't imagine you actually ever judging anyone unless they were directly responsible for something morally reprehensible, which says a lot about how nervous I am about some of those topics. You make a good argument though. I think at this point I'm leaning towards a Twitter + some kind of blog or tumblr that I can link to when I have something particularly long and/or better-thought-out to say.
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[User Picture]From: yingtai
2014-08-08 06:53 pm (UTC)
Ah. Well, like Christians say, we are all sinners.
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[User Picture]From: nancylebov
2014-08-08 04:55 pm (UTC)
Tentatively offered: Metafilter.

Edited at 2014-08-08 04:55 pm (UTC)
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[User Picture]From: erratio
2014-08-08 06:42 pm (UTC)
Thanks! I'll take a look. A glance makes it look like it's basically reddit, but with a much better userbase?
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[User Picture]From: nancylebov
2014-08-08 07:53 pm (UTC)
I'm not sure about comparing them-- I don't spend much time at either of them, but metafilter (and ask.metaphilter) seem to have decent communities and they permit anonymity.
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[User Picture]From: andrewducker
2014-08-08 05:34 pm (UTC)
You could start your own blog.

But it very-much depends on what you want from your online presence.

If you want to have a social experience, then either start searching out more people on LJ/DW or join Tumblr.

If you want to own your own long-term presence then relying on other people is not the way to go, you should be grabbing your own domain, setting up Wordpress (or equivalent) and then spreading out from there.
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